A few years ago several of my "coupled" friends started doing something I would have never imagined them doing. They would party all night and SWAP. You know what I am talking about...lose all of their inhibitions and engage in sexual activities with someone other than your partner and vice-versa.
As open minded as I claim to be--this is something that I have never been able to comprehend. I understand the erotica...but could I stand by and watch Numnuts bang some wildly-willing fresh meat? No fucking way.
Admittedly, I have used my half-tainted-creative-mind to visualize this act during a mid afternoon "solo" romp, but the idea of watching him tear into some new beaver is stomach churning.
Confident or not......sharing your Numnuts (in my opinion) is an admission of you feeling unable to satisfy your mate. As stagnant as relationship sex can become---there must be another way.
Threesomes---let's see. You are single, it is Tuesday, you are having some drinks with one of your fabulous "IF" friends and the 6'2 hot ass bartender is ready and willing.....what the hell.
For the record..the couples I am referencing above (wifeswap) are no longer coupled. Correlation?
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My thoughts...One time long,long ago, I dated someone who wanted me to be with another girl while he watched. He said he might join in, but wasn't sure. It was his fantasy. Was I to fill it? Not a chance...didn't like him that much anyway. Fast-forward...no longer dating, but remained friends. He found that special someone to live out his fantasy and you know what??? It grossed him out and the poor girl he dated got dumped by him...what a dick!!! Not entirely a 3some, but whatever....Then, a few years back, my neighbors (a nice late 20s,early30s,married professionals)let me in on a little secret. Couple-swapping??? I wondered how could they have so many friends that were couples. They let me in on their secret cuz the husband and I had a little flirtatious escapade which led to a little fondling when nobody else was around. I never slept with him cuz i knew if his wife found out she'd kick my ass!!! And, it's just plain wrong, i mean she was kinda my friend, but i really did hate my boyfriend at the time. ANyway, one night we were all drinkin' and they brought it up like it was nothing...i tried to play it off like i thought they were kidding and it was time to go!!! If you met these people, you'd never think that in a million years she would dress up in thigh-high boots and some lingerie and get it on with her best friends and their husbands. Did they do girl/girl and guy/guy and whatever else??? Well, I never extended our friendship to that level. Actually, I was kinda scared:) So, no, I do not think I would ever be that adventurous...I don't think it has anything to do with trying new things, keeping it in the family, insecurities, etc...I think it's weird..others may say that at least you'd be with your man when he's doing it with someone else, but god help that someone else, I would go f'ing nuts!!! By the way, we never swapped partners back in the day, did we??? LOL!!!
Wow--what neighborhood was that? You never know what goes on behind closed doors. I am proud of you for not jumping in! Was he hot?
For the record--no. We have not swapped. We have shared the room a few times, oh and I think a car or two. Oh the good old days!
As much as it may sound like fun, even a perverted bastard like me does not think it's a good idea. Two strangers, yes. Your lover and someone else, no.
Could you ever bump uglies again and not picture what you witnessed?
Sunny, just reading you saying new beaver makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. Keep up the good work!
Cut it out crazy! No harrassing the moderator! You need to hook up with Slg..she is perfect for you! I am so glad to hear that you agree with this...most guys claim they would love this scenerio. I have a family member who did this with his wife of 15 years (these two were a fantastic couple). There divorce was just finalized last week and it was bitter! I know it played a huge part. Very sad.
If you're married, you most likely took an oath before God, to be faithful, foresaking all others, etc...How does swapping and threesomes fit into that?! It doesn't! If you want to be with other partners, don't be in a committed relationship. That just can't be in the best interest of any committed relationship! My man THOUGHT he wanted to see me with someone else, until I played that scenario out for him verbally, while he was doing me one night! That shut him down pretty quick, and he's never brought anything remotely close to that subject up again!
I do have a friend who used to "swing" with his (now ex) girlfriend. Operative word here...EX!!! It may be good for other people, but not for me! I'm selfish...I don't share!!!!! What's mine is mine, and what's your's is mine! Any questions?
Thanks for writing this.
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