OK, I have no idea if Hillary Clinton will be our next president or not, but what I do know is we (women) are quite often our biggest enemy. Let me explain.
Why are some women so cynical when it comes to another woman's success? Being that women have been fighting for their equality since the stone age--shouldn't we support each other when something great happens?
Yesterday I overheard some women discussing a past coworker who has moved on to bigger and better things. Instead of using that situation to aspire towards their own success, they spent about 30 minutes coming up with reasons why she didn't deserve the job. It was pathetic. I on the other hand thought, "Good for her and then the positive spin jumped in and I thought--hey if she can do it, so can I."
We are the cause of our own repression (not all of us, but many). Why wouldn't we support a woman when she betters herself and her situation? Is it jealousy? Why not stand behind her and open some doors for yourself? When the women congregate and decide that one of their own is not worthy of the job--doesn't this send a message to the white bread men who are still running the show? If you have ever worked in a company that is a nesting place for females...you know what I am talking about.
If I meet a woman who is successful and worked her way up...I immediately want to know her. I am not threatened by her...I want to learn from her. Number one rule of success: If you want to be successful you MUST surround yourself with successful people. If you spend your days standing around a bunch of complaining women/men who openly flaunt their weaknesses by cowardly disgracing others---then you deserve to be where you are and get comfortable because that is where you will remain.
If you know someone who has recently acquired a new job or promotion---go and give them a big old pat on the back because they deserve it and are probably a little rattled trying to deal with it all. You never know how that 3 seconds of support might just open a window for you to slither in.........WE MUST SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER LADIES!
Any thoughts?
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Amen! Striving to be better at something or even just being a better person should be admired. We all should be doing it anyway. I am constantly trying to surround myself around positive, successful women and have been extremely lucky to have found women like that. I think for some it may be a bit overwhelming and you can feel like you have nothing to offer but that changes as you change....You become what you think about most of the time (I think Brian Tracy said that). I am still trying to find my way in this world and continue to pursue ways to help me grow and become successful. When I first started joining some women's groups I was very intimated, what did I have to offer? But I knew I had to make some changes and take the steps to put myself out there, meet positive successful women and see what they were doing and how they were doing it....they weren't going to come running to me. Now, I wonder what took me so long, I have learned so much and continue to do so....it's like a new found strength in myself. So I say to those of you who are like those women that have to belittle another woman's success, "Take a long look in the mirror. If it's because you are unhappy with yourself that you can't be happy for others, then make some changes in you. Put the focus on BEING the woman you want to be...it may take some time but it will happen. You'll also find that you were just wasting your precious time worried about that other woman and not learning from her"
Amen Ro, amen....I have never been more inspired than to be inspired by a strong ass woman. It works the same way with wealth--if you want to be wealthy you must surround yourself with wealthy people. They must know something--right. Glad you are finally here you big, bad "IF" crusader! You always had it Ro, glad you can finally apply it!
I am on a mission to apply it to wealthy learning. I really want some input on that...saving, investing...I will find a way to get my money to make money so I can stay busy with travel and friends and not busting my ass over 50 hours a week UNLESS that is what I want to do! I am proud to be a single woman and ok with who I am and if I never marry that is ok too. But I still want the house and a lifestyle and happiness that comes with being smart and creative with your finances so I can enjoy life's simple pleasures. Any ideas on that?
A very good friend of mine is a finance fella...I am going to have him chime in here on this one. Check back next week and let's see what he advises.......I will have him give some great tips on "IF" investing!
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