You either invite them in or you close the door and worry about them until you are blue in the face. This is my experience with strays. So let's play a game--am I talking about the black cat who just happened to show up at my house the week of Halloween? Or am I talking about the people that come into my life? Here's the answer---BOTH. Some of us are magnets for the lost and needy. I am one of those magnets.
I can't say that I will always let the cat in, but if I meet a slightly wayward person, I feel it is my duty to listen to them. For example: A younger fella that works part time with numnuts came by yesterday. Within minutes I found myself prowling through his mind to find out which direction this young lad is heading with his future. As I expected, he was fumbling daily with what he wants to be when he grows up. So what do you think happened next?
I spent 2 hours discussing his potential and giving him a good old kick of confidence. He left with some serious "pep" in his step and within an hour sent me his resume and some very kinds words of how I made his day. Somehow, they find me. My point with all of this---I suppose it is not so bad to be the one that can motivate the troops, but when the battle gets too much to fight alone---will the soldiers be standing next to you ready to brawl? Let's hope so.
If you have someone in your life that takes any amount of time to support you in your constant quest to find yourself---make sure to pay it forward. If everyone could start their morning as this young lad did, think of all the great accomplishments there would be in a day.
I think we all need a morning motivator.....are you that person or have you recently taken your time to enhance the life of another? If so--how did it go?
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Well you know I have been doing a lot of that the past few years...volunteering at DVSS, donating my time to help charitable events whenever I can, and I do try to be there for friends in need and I can honestly say that I have enjoyed it, grown from it and feel like some positive things and people have been brought into my life because of it. I really love helping others and I know that I have needed it in the past. Can I say that I have always shown my gratitude? Unfortunately, no and I do regret that, but all I can do now is try not to let that happen again. I am truly grateful to those that have helped me and do my best to pay it forward. If any one reading this has been there for me let me take this moment to say THANK YOU!!! If I may go off on a different path for a moment to say that if we help others expecting something in return WE WILL GET DISAPPOINTED. If we help someone that never asked for our help then we are probably NOT helping and if we continue to help someone deal with the same issues over and over again then we are probably ENABLING them and that doesn't help you or that person. I have been guilty of doing all of them and having them done to me. We all should really think about that. Even the best of us need a great pep talk and count on our friends to always be there when we need it but with that should also come the understanding that we all have lives and issues of our own. I listen to self development CDs and read the books from time-to-time to keep me going since I can't expect others to be constantly doing it for me, it's extremely unrealistic to have those expectations. Giving is such a great feeling and not getting anything back can be a HORRIBLE feeling but I think most of the people that I really care about appreciate my help even if they don't show it all the time and will pay it forward....sometimes we just get caught up in our own lives and issues and can't really give back like we should, when we should...I try to remember it's not always about ME (not that it works all the time). When you do like helping others then you will feel like you attract the strays because it's who you are and that can be extremely overwhelming and unrewarding at times. That's when you have to take time for you and really look at why you are feeling this way....boy can I preach it but can I follow it?! I am trying to learn that taking time for me should be my focus when I'm having my issues because if I'm no good for myself then I'm no good for others. Some may see it as selfish if they really need me and I'm not there but it has to be done. If you take the time to be selfish and get yourself together then you can be unselfish later and feel good about helping others and you will get the help in return without expecting...you just may not see it right away and it may not come from that specific person but it will happen. Ok, I'm off the soap box for now....you know I can talk about this for hours.
This is precisely why I have been waiting for you dear Ro Ro. Love the being selfish part---everyone must take time or it is impossible to give to others. The me first attitude is very tough, but me last can be brutal. Great insight Ro!!! Love your positive attitude!
It really does help to be around other positive people. Dr Ken White is such a great person (I'm a big fan for the obvious reason :o) and I learn from him every time I'm around him. He is so talented and giving, he has never said a bad word about anyone and always make others around him feel important. I'm here to tell you that it has made a huge difference in my attitude toward coordinating the Gala but it also makes me think about how I am as a person.
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